I think the posts are great and the advice helpful – - – for people with symmetrical breasts! Feminism has struggled with redefining beauty and worked to make space for all shapes and sizes of women, but what hasnít happened is progress into the packaging, ribbons and bows (figurative and literal) for these diverse shapes and sizes.
Iím not specifically talking about bodies that have had surgeries and grapple with reconstructing something that isnít there anymore, but about bodies that have grown and developed with significant differences between left and right, although the advice might help both groups.
My feet are a full size difference Ė which causes me problems shopping for pointe shoes. If I were rich Iíd buy a pair of each size so that both could fit (and be safe) but student + artist = poor so itís just not happening.
Usually though my feet survive nicely with half sizes. As long as street shoes donít rub in the wrong way I find I can wiggle one foot of toes better than the other, but both are sufficiently happy. Sandals are great. Ask Woman in Comfy Shoes. The problem gets more serious as I climb upwards. My chest is lopsided. One breast must be at least a full cup size different than the other. I can’t be sure because the standard “how to measure your size” doesn’t work for me.
Before I gained this latest fifteen pounds (it’s been a tough semester), it wasnít as big of an issue. Both breasts were As or less so I was happy wearing no bra, just an undershirt if my nipples were ultra sensitive (like during ovulation) or on rare occasions I could find a nice bra. I discovered though that most A cup bras are made for tiny people (which Iím not). Iím a tall woman, hardly petite and a 32Ē band just isnít going to go around me.
Then I gained some weight.
And grew breasts.
Two very different breasts.
Now I feel more comfortable wearing a bra, but itís hard to find anything that fits right. Iíve found this one and other similar ones that have no cup that follow a small/medium/large sizing chart but day after day they get kind of dull. I have one in pink, one in blue, and one in burgundy but it just isn’t variety like what I see when I go to the sites Bitch Ph.D. recommended. The ones I have are made with stretchy fabric (lycra and tactel) instead of a wire and formed cup so that the fabric stretches only as much as needed. This seems to be my only choice if I donít want one side squeezed (too much mastitis in my past) or one side full of air.
Padded bras were suggested to me once Ė but I like my body the way it is. I donít want to construct something that isnít me, I just want to find something that fits. My mťmŤre, during her years of being a single mother of six made custom undergarments for women Ė brassieres and corsets, and if she was still around, I might ask her how common this situation was. It might be a solution for me to consider but I donít suppose that a custom seamstress is any more affordable than a pair of pointe shoes. I just want to go somewhere, find something I like, and know that one of the sizes will fit.
Supporting all shapes and sizes isnít sufficient unless that support translates into goods and services that meet our needs.